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A Primer on Defiling Oneself
Dr. Baron Mullis
August 30, 2015 - Mark 7:1-8, 14-23

 

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A Primer on Defiling Oneself                                                               
Mark 7:1-8, 14-23        

Dr. Baron Mullis
Morningside Presbyterian Church
August 30, 2015

 

Perhaps you’ve heard the old adage, “Bad decisions make the best stories.”

My older brother is an emergency physician in North Carolina.  He could and would readily give the anecdotal support for that adage… frequently his best stories involve the campers at the infield at the Coca Cola 600.  It’s not pretty.

One year, for Christmas, I gave him a copy of Darwin Awards.  Are you familiar with The Darwin Awards?  It’s really quite a horrible book – it’s folks who remove themselves from the gene-pool in particularly spectacular fashion.  The case studies aren’t funny, but the near misses can be a good read… One good example is of an environmentalist who wanted to make a point of conservation by depriving people of electricity.  He contrived to do so by sawing through a 69,000 volt line.  With a tree saw.  Wearing dishwashing gloves for insulation. 

Apparently with excellent medical care, he has suffered no permanent damage.1  

Anyhow, I gave Brent this book one year, and he said, “I don’t need to read this.  My job is fighting natural selection every single day.” 

 Of course the point is that foolishness is really only funny when nobody loses an eye. 

The same is true of what defiles a person.

If you think the topic of defiling oneself is a cheery topic for a Sunday morning, I can assure you it was no cheerier when I sat down to write this past week.  It’s particularly lovely when we anticipate a baptism.

I don’t know that we often give much thought to defilement as a matter of weekly course. 

I know I periodically joke about the fine establishments that one encounters periodically along Cheshire Bridge road, but it’s just jokes because there’s really nothing funny about what goes on in the less savory places. 

Well, maybe that one sign, you know that one that claims that a particular bar is just like Cheers?  That one has always struck me funny because I’m pretty sure that what’s going on in there suggests that, in fact, sometimes you don’t ”wanna go where everybody knows your name.” 

But you and I both know the truth is there is really nothing funny about being defiled. 

This morning, we encountered two different perspectives on defiling oneself in Mark’s Gospel. 

First we have the Pharisees assessing the behavior of the disciples.

Then we have Jesus’s rebuttal of their point of view. 

First, we have a human construct – a social pressure to observe the niceties of ritual hand washing.

Mind you, I have nothing against hand washing.  Indeed, I am a great fan of it.  But that is not what is going on here with the Pharisees.  What we get from the Pharisees in this moment is a “gotcha game” with the law.  This is using an arbitrary metric to determine what constitutes acceptable behavior.

Then we have Jesus’s rebuttal.  It’s a particularly interesting rebuttal because Mark, who rarely interprets the story for the reader, tells us that Jesus is declaring all foods clean.   It’s a clarifying moment.  It is Jesus saying to his disciples and to the Pharisees all at the same time, “Get your eye on the ball.”

And then he outlines what defiles a person.

If you ever needed a primer on defiling yourself, here it is.  It’s a semi-systematic listing of paradigmatic things that one can do to defile oneself.  It’s semi-systematic, but not exhaustive.  There are plenty more things one can do to defile oneself.  And here’s what strikes me about it – everything on it is a way to devalue and denigrate yourself or someone else. 

Everything on this list is an opportunity to be less than God created you to be. 

You know, nobody ever sets out to do that.  It seems to sneak up doesn’t it?

It starts with an insecurity; a hang-up.

It slips into a need for affirmation.

Temptation sidles up, looking like an opportunity.

It slides into decision.

It slinks into action.

Jesus uses fornication and adultery as two great examples of defiling oneself.

I suspect it is because he knows how destructive to self and others these particular behaviors are.  They are community destroyers because you can’t do them by yourself.  And they are humanity destroyers because they make us less than we’re created to be.

In fifteen years of parish ministry, I have never once heard someone say in their pre-marital counseling that they wanted to be unfaithful to their spouse.

And yet if you didn’t know there is a website dedicated to facilitating that before last week, you probably do now.  

And the truth is, I’m not really interested in psychoanalyzing the architecture of an affair.  Nor am I particularly interested in classifying persons as defiled or not.

We are interested in understanding redemption. 

The Pharisees wanted to make faithfulness a practice of hand washing – and the like, whatever little rituals people come up with to dictate what makes a person a good person or a bad person. 

Jesus wanted them to go much deeper, to take a hard look at what diminishes our humanity.

He targeted a few behaviors as representative.

Please note closely this: Jesus said nothing about what makes a person good or bad, he talked about what makes us less than we are created to be. 

Behaviors can lift us up.  And behaviors can tear us down.  What we do makes a difference.

But behaviors can never define our ultimate worth.

Okay, so true confession.  This past week, I was walking out the door the welcome center and I’d been kvetching with Drew about particular mutual acquaintance we share and a most recent negative interaction and I said somewhat jokingly, “Can’t we just acknowledge that he’s a bad person and have done with it?”

Drew paused just long enough to force the better angels of my nature to make me to finish the sentence, “Yes, I get it, I know he’s a beloved child of God, but Drew, he is a seriously trifling beloved child of God.”

This is what I get for having a career where I’m surrounded by ministers.

You can defile yourself but you can never make yourself anything other than a beloved child of God.

Jesus really does want us to go deeper in our own faith than hand washing.  He wants us to understand our own behavior and feelings.  He wants us to understand what diminishes the humanity of ourselves and others. 

It’s really easy to talk a lot about humanity and defilement and to leave it way up in the air, esoteric really, as to what makes for goodness and faithfulness.  I think that is why Jesus is so concrete in his answer to the disciples. 

And I think that is why, from time to time, we need to be concrete also.  We’re going to pledge again in a few moments, that by the manner of our lives we will show another child of God what it means to be a follower of Jesus Christ. 

That means asking concrete questions.  If you want to know how to live a life that shows people that you’re a follower of Jesus, behavior matters.

Here are a couple of sample questions:

Is it kind? -  Is it helpful?- Is it necessary? - Am I going to regret this? - What might I be about to damage or destroy?

Here is a bigger question, When I am sitting on the porch at “the Home” and I’m ninety years old, and I look back over my life, what will I wish I’d done right now?

It would be very easy to turn this passage today into an object lesson, “Do this, don’t do that.”

As object lessons go, it’s a pretty useful one – behavior should have limits.  But if all we do today is consider the reasonable limits of human behavior for the reduction of suffering, we can answer that with Aristotle’s Ethics.

 But Jesus wants us to go deeper.  This is not just about non-sensical non-choices, “Should I be nice, or should I be a jerk”

“Do I really want destroy this person’s sense of feeling valued, or do I just want to get lucky?”

It’s about something deeper.  It’s about developing an internal life, an honesty with self about who God created you to be, and then being that person.

God created you to be human, not to be defiled.

The problem with defiling oneself is that it erodes at the underpinning of humanity that is our birthright.  It erodes at what God created us for. 

God didn’t make us for cheapness… no, this is the God who, “from our mother’s arms has blessed us on our way with countless gifts of love.”

And just as a behavior can leave us feeling a little less human than we know we are, just as a bad decision can leave us feeling a little less integrated with ourselves and each other, so can a kindness begin the restorative work of redemption.

I read a wonderful essay last week by Brett Martin about a lunch he had with Jacques Pepin. 

Martin had endured an excruciatingly slow-motion breakup that he said, “Left me living in the windowless basement of an old friend’s house in Brooklyn.  Mornings, I lay in the complete darkness, listening to the shuffling and creaking as he and his wife and two children prepared for the day.  There had been a time when I still felt close to that domestic future, but now the truth of my life had been revealed: I was no man.  I was a troll in the cellar.  Of all the fallout, physical, psychological, and emotional – one effect was most worrisome: I had lost my appetite.”

Broke, he took on a freelance assignment from a friend at GQ magazine, to interview one of the first celebrity chefs, Jacques Pepin, for his tips on designing a home kitchen. 

He began the interview by apologizing for taking up the chef’s time.  “No, no, don’t be ridiculous.”  Back and forth they went… gas stove, but electric oven… Freezer drawer, not side by side… Most gadgets are useless… As he prepared to leave, Pepin’s assistant asked if he wanted something to eat.  Assuming it was just a courtesy, he returned the courtesy asking, “Will you join me?”

Pepin, he wrote, “Looked at me as though I might have hearing problems. ‘Of course!  It’s lunchtime.’”

As they ate, the chef asked, “What do you think of the consommé?”

It needed salt.  But more than that, being treated like someone who should be asked was balm for his weariness.  And so as lunch progressed, Martin noted he realized his appetite was returning and he was ravenous.  He grabbed hunks of bread and slathered them with pate.  He gnawed the bones of the lamb chops.  “If Pepin noticed, he didn’t say.”2

Amazing what lunch can do, no?  No, not just any lunch – only one seasoned with human kindness. 

This is what we are made for: human kindness… defilement is anything that violates that God-created reality.

Beloved child of God, I hope you’ll wash your hands when they need to be washed, but so much more I hope you’ll remember always that it is God who made you, and it is for humanity that you were made. 

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost, Amen.
 


1 http://darwinawards.com/stupid/stupid2008-04.html
2 Brett Martin, The Chef Who Saved Me in The Week, August 21, 2015. P36

Last Published: September 5, 2015 7:16 PM